I just want to complain LEH..

Time for an update...

Was talking to celine about leadership in our zone after cg last week.. I have no faith and respect for our leaders in our zone.. yes.. its true.. prob there are one or two who deserves my respect, or some which i have never been under before, but most of those that i have talked to or led me before don't deserve my respect.. Okay, maybe deserve my respect sounds alittle wrong, maybe they think that they don't need my respect also.. I shall put it simply as I refuse to respect them..

Why??

Some seemed to despised and judged me, some seemed so "fake" and the rest are just bad.. But the thing is that we should not question or judge authority, whats more, its God authority.. I mean even if they made a mistake, its only human, they have weaknesses also.. Shouldnt i try to understand them since I myself ain't perfect?? At the same time, since they took up the title of leadership, they should bear the responsibilities also right?? Just like what Pastor Kong said, good leadership brings the people forward, bad leadership bring the people backward.. Or like how Donald Trump always tell those leaders who complain about members who can't seem to cooperate with the whole team and cause the team to lose, "you are the leader, you solve the problem".. So could i really be blamed if the bad leadership in my zone comes under my wrath?? I hope not..

First, about the one who sorta despied me.. I cant exactly give an exact description of her expression or meaning of why she did it.. But when i went to visit my helper at the hospital with darling, some leaders were there.. And she gave a sorta like a "despised" kinda face when we said hello to my helper.. I saw it at the corner of my eye.. Kinda surprised when i saw it, cos she was a leader i respected.. So why must like tat to me?? Just cos me and darling were not blessed by Ian den must look down on my r/s?? Just cos you are married?? The only reason you people din bless is cos you all felt we were too young and prob other minor issues.. If only you all could look through the age problem and see our seriousness in our relationship, cos we are definitely not a 3 or 4 month relationship kinda person.. i tend to ignore tat leader now already.. Im not the only one who think she's changed.. What more could i say??

Secondly, to the leaders that seemed so fake.. Prob only when you have a car den they come friendly with you so that they could get a lift, if not, you see them in church, they also wont say hi.. Why?? Too stuck up ah?? Must give you a "bro so and so" or "sis so and so" greeting den u will greet back ah?? Its even worse if another leader complain to your leader when you din greet that leader!! True story.. but it happened to some one else.. This member never greet that leader, then that leader go complain to the member's leader! WTH!! BEST right! And the ultimate worse, this happened on me, is they complain about us booing other oppositions at emerge competition.. BEST!! Accuse us of something that we did not even do.. Not even close to booing please!

Thirdly, to those leaders who are just plain BAD! Either character wise or leadership wise.. My ex leader is one such person.. What he did to some ex members, i shall not say, its not very nice to say it out.. Its just bad.. All i can say is, he has a act holy side and a really bad side.. U noe movies that are like tat, ppl who often seem so nice but very evil inside, just think along that line.. Then there are those wif bad leadership skills.. My gf's leader is one.. If you want to know what he does, den go read my gf's blog.. I also dont want to comment much also.. but just bad leadership, the kind that pastor kong speaks about, bad leadership bring the people backward.. And my gf leader still can call me a "stone" for being too stubborn.. I think he is the one who is stubborn, stubborn to not do anything to help the cg grow..

Fourth, to the boss of the bosses who always seems so busy.. I mean i totally can understand his plight, dad went to hospital and stuff, wife having difficult first baby and stuff, totally understand and can sympathise him.. But what i hate, is that he keeps making empty promises.. He always announce to the cg he will do this and that.. Say my cg will not disband, he want to make it da so called "foundation" cg which he will personally lead, but not my cg disbanded.. You dont do this kinda stuff.. If you cannot do it, just say, and explain your actions.. Dont say it despite knowing your limitations then not doing any of those you said.. Its just bad.. How can a zone supervisor say so many words that dont carry any weight, how can members trust him?? What more the leaders??

Lastly, to Bro Kel whom i really respect.. Although i was under him for awhile, he showed me enough understanding and respected me as a young adult, and i really respect him.. Yes, he has a bad side of being too hard on members that don't listen to him.. But its really the members fault if you ask me.. I know of 2 members that suffer his wrath and i know that 2 members was really kinda bad.. I may not know all of his bad points, but at least he is a very sincere and understanding leader.. Now, my current leader Timothy is not that bad also.. I got to agree Timothy is kinda slack on the discipline side, but at least he don't force and tries to understand..

I hate leaders that force people now.. Yes, at times people need some pushing so that they can move forward, but some leaders really just force, either that, they make you feel so guilty that you just have to do it.. Den they give you the "you are not doing for me but God" crap.. As a helper before, leaders always bullshit, sumtimes they really want numbers.. SUMTIMES.. They will come to you and say "eh cannot la.. this week service too low liao.. Can you get those that dont want to come to come? Can you make it happen??" There is a fine line between forcing and encouraging..

Encouraging is like " hey i heard you not coming today.. Soccer is it?? Why dont you play another day?? Maybe tml?? Cannot?? Or i play with you some other days?? Service is gonna be very good and stuff.. im sure you won't regret it if you come.. You want to think about it?? Thats okay, tell me your answer k?"..

Forcing is "hey, why you not coming today?? Soccer?? Soccer or God more impt?? Soccer is temporary, God is eternal.. you want to think about it?? why must think?? What are your priorities?? Not coming?? You should go recheck your priorities.. "

I don't care if its a helper or a member, church shouldnt be forced.. Yes, its a member's responsibility to go church but at the same time, it shldnt be forced, its up to that certain individual on whether he is responsible enuf..

I know its a damm long post.. Haha.. Last thing..

Leaders hate irresponsible members who dun even come service and cg.. their most basic responsibility..
So shldnt members hate irresponsible leaders who don't do a good job??